One in four teenagers is currently self-harming. 

It is critical to know what to do when this behavior affects your teen. 

Discovering that your tween or teen is intentionally hurting him or herself can be incredibly disturbing. Unfortunately, self-harm is very common with as many as 25% of all teenagers engaging in it.

Self-harm, often in the form of cutting, burning or hair pulling, is the physical expression of hidden mental pain.

Children may begin cutting or engaging in other forms of self-harm when their mental pain reaches a level that they can no longer manage. Over the years, I have worked with hundreds of children and their families who have been affected by self-harm and the feelings they experience are all the same.

● lack of understanding

● fear and worry

● anger

● shame and guilt

● sadness

● withdrawal and isolation

● desperation

The Risks are Real

When teens feel sad, distressed, worried or confused, the emotions might be so extreme that they lead to acts of self-injury. IN that moment, your child may feel that self-harm is helping to relieve those feelings, making it feel like it is the proper fix or coping tool for pain. And, while controlling emotional pain with physical pain may make your child feel better in the moment, the emotional pain will return.

Your teen needs your understanding and your support.

Hi, I'm Julie Smith, licensed psychotherapist, behaviorist and adolescent specialist.
For almost three decades, I have dedicated myself to the field of family and adolescent development. I specialize not only in helping parents + professionals speak teen, but I also offer support during high-risk, high-need situations.

That is exactly why I created What to Do When™ your Teen is Self-Harming, a unique parent guide to understand and address cutting and self-harming behaviors in teens.

For just $29.95,
you will receive…

The What to Do When™ Parent Guide

The introductory essential What to Do When™ Your Teen is Self-Harming, delivered in multiple forms: video, audio and transcript - so you can get the information how you want it. Topics covered include:

● Know the signs of self-harming behaviors.

● Understand the difference between self-harm and suicide.

● Learn how to talk with your tween or teen.

● Help your child find alternative coping skills.

● Identify a mental health provider that can help your child manage their behaviors and discover any co-occurring concerns.

● Mange your own feelings.

● How to support your child so they feel loved .

Your Resource Library + Toolkit

The What to Do When™ Essential Toolbox + Resource Library is packed with my top tricks, tools, interviews, resources and expert advice to help you support your child during this stage of life. A sampling of printables in this essential include:

● Choosing a counselor

● Distractions + alternatives to self-harming behaviors

● Building a personal support team

● What to do right now if your tween or teen is cutting checklist

● Creating a safety plan

       ...and more.

Continued Community + Support

Access to our private message forum in the What to Do When™ library to connect with me and my team. This is your opportunity to ask us anything. 

A private one-hour session with me costs $300. What to Do When™ gives you my expert advice for a fraction of that price!  

In addition, you will have continued access to  this product, updates and the forum for the lifetime of this product. 


You'll also receive access in your library to the following invaluable bonuses for parents of teens.

● What to Do When Parent Mini-Guide, "Meet the Tween" 

● What to Do When your Tween or Teen is in Crisis

"As a parent who felt helpless, frightened and out of my depth when faced with issues I never thought I would have to face,
I am grateful you have been there to help, not just for our daughter, but our entire family navigate through these difficult times.  "

T, mom of 16YO

This product is for you if:

  • you want to improve the relationship with your child.
  • you want your child to feel supported.
  • you are able to help your child seek additional support.
  • you want to learn about what self-harm is and isn’t.
  • you want to have courageous conversations with your child about real issues that happen in his or her life. (FYI…your child is experiencing these things every day at school.)
  • you want to be proactive.
  • you want your child to know he or she isn’t alone or powerless.
  • there is a current suspicion or concern regarding self-harming behaviors.


This product is NOT for you if:

  • think self-harming isn’t a big deal.
  • think this is just a phase.
  • think that your child wants you to feel sorry for them.
  • want to pretend it will go away.
  • want to blame others or shame your child.
  • feel your child is bad or a problem to be fixed.
  • are looking for a magic pill, quick fix or one-size-fits-all solution.

Your tween or teen needs to feel a sense of peace; he or she needs to feel appreciated and know that you will be there for them unconditionally.
With patience, compassion and understanding, you can get through this.


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